I actually find this really interesting (and well done Tom for having the courage to be open and honest).
From the transcript:
Well that someone is a guy. And it did take me by surprise a little bit. It was always in the back of my head that something like that could happen. But it wasn’t until spring this year that something just clicked, it felt right. And I was like: OK.
Like I said, my whole world just changed right there and then. Of course, I still fancy girls, but right now I’m dating a guy and I couldn’t be happier. I feel safe and it just feels right.
So what label are you going to give Tom? Is he bi-sexual? Is this one bloke the only man he’s ever really fancied? If so, does that make him a straight guy dating a man? And is that at all linked to the loss of his father at such a crucial time in his life (I’m intrigued as to why he feels “safe”)?
I would love to sit down with Tom and explore it all a bit more.
One thing’s for sure, using “gay” and “straight” as prescriptive identities means that we restrict ourselves in genuinely understanding people’s sexual identities.
With impeccable timing that demonstrates the sovereign hand of God, today the Living Out website is launched. Head over there and check it out.
What’s it about? Let me let the three founders tell you in their own words.
Living Out is for you if you’re somebody who experiences same sex attraction. We want you to hear different stories from the ones you’re perhaps hearing. We want you to hear that it’s possible to stay loyal to what the Bible says and flourish in life. It’s for you if you are a church leader or member – we want to equip you to understand and care for the people in your church family who experience same sex attraction. And it’s for the wider world to listen in and find out that there is a different story. Our society thinks the Church is homophobic, thinks the church doesn’t understand homosexuality. The church isn’t homophobic. The church does understand homosexuality and we want to be part of getting that message out to the world around us. Ed Shaw Associate Pastor, Emmanuel, Bristol
We decided to set up Living Out because many Christians who are same sex attracted are coming under increasing pressure, sometimes even from people in the leadership of their churches, not to hold to what we believe is the authentic Christian teaching about sex and marriage. We really want to get the message out there that living according to that teaching is healthy, is good and is plausible. It’s really working for us and it is a blessing in our lives rather than being something that is just difficult or painful. So we want to share our stories about that and we want to encourage people to live that way because it’s a good way to live. Sean Doherty
Lecturer in Ethics at St. Mellitus College in London
The whole issue of homosexuality in our culture is huge. We’ve recently had legislation on gay marriage. It’s a growing issue people are thinking through. It’s a good time for us as Christians to be trying to articulate our beliefs on this issue and to help others understand them. Sam Allberry
Associate Minister, St. Mary’s Church, Maidenhead
Aber mit der Heimat
geht man immer herum,
durch die Welt,
dort und dort
No one could describe
the Word of the Father;
but when He took flesh from you, O Theotokos,
He consented to be described, and restored the fallen image to its former beauty.
We confess and proclaim our salvation in word and image.
Kontakion of the Triumph of Orthodoxy
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Second Week of Advent
O Lord, raise up, we pray, your power
and come among us,
and with great might succour us;
that whereas, through our sins and wickedness
we are grievously hindered
in running the race that is set before us,
your bountiful grace and mercy
may speedily help and deliver us;
through Jesus Christ your Son our Lord,
to whom with you and the Holy Spirit,
be honour and glory, now and for ever.
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13, ESV)