I actually find this really interesting (and well done Tom for having the courage to be open and honest).
From the transcript:
Well that someone is a guy. And it did take me by surprise a little bit. It was always in the back of my head that something like that could happen. But it wasnâ€™t until spring this year that something just clicked, it felt right. And I was like: OK.
Like I said, my whole world just changed right there and then. Of course, I still fancy girls, but right now Iâ€™m dating a guy and I couldnâ€™t be happier. I feel safe and it just feels right.
So what label are you going to give Tom? Is he bi-sexual? Is this one bloke the only man he’s ever really fancied? If so, does that make him a straight guy dating a man? And is that at all linked to the loss of his father at such a crucial time in his life (I’m intrigued as to why he feels “safe”)?
I would love to sit down with Tom and explore it all a bit more.
One thing’s for sure, using “gay” and “straight” as prescriptive identities means that we restrict ourselves in genuinely understanding people’s sexual identities.