Some interesting thoughts from Letters to Christopher.
I think it is problematic to link any sort of change of a dramatic nature such as a change of sexual attractions to whether or not someone has â€œcome into the knowledge of Jesus Christ,â€ as Scott seems to suggest. This sort of thinking has damaged a lot of people with same sex attraction by placing unrealistic hopes and expectations on their life of faith. If change doesnâ€™t happen, itâ€™s because they havenâ€™t grown in their knowledge of Christ? Itâ€™s clear to me that the man born blind in John 9 really had no â€œknowledge of Jesus Christâ€ other than hearsay, until after he was healed. It was the love and will of God that caused the manâ€™s sight to be restored. It wasnâ€™t some sort of gauge of the depth of his relationship with Christ.I think of St. Paul, whose â€œthorn in the fleshâ€ wasnâ€™t healed, (which many scholars believe was related to poor eyesight.)
Surely if having a â€œknowledge of Jesus Christâ€ is the reason someone finds healing of his woundedness, St. Paul would have qualified!If I live with SSA, it is for my good and for my sanctification. If God somehow decides to heal this disorder within me, it too will be for my good and for my sanctification. That would be the reasonâ€“not because I had suddenly â€œcome into a knowledge of Jesus Christâ€ more than I had the day before. I know that whatever He allows in my life is for my good, and indeed is what will actually cause me to grow in my knowledge of Jesus Christ.
I think well meaning people should avoid suggesting to people like me that the greatest sign of Godâ€™s love and power in our lives will be evidenced when we see our attractions change. I simply donâ€™t believe thatâ€™s what God is concerned about, as much as He is our sanctification and trusting all to his Divine Providence.I have no doubt that God has the power to change such things in my life. I just donâ€™t think He finds it that important that my attractions change, nor do I. I trust in His will for my life, and Iâ€™ve now come to see my SSA as a â€œsevere mercy,â€ and wouldnâ€™t rewrite it out of my life. If God wills it otherwise in the future, I say â€œThy will be done.â€ If it stays in my life until Iâ€™m dead, Iâ€™ll thank God He allowed it in my life, and say again, â€œThy will be done.â€It is as unwise and imprudent to tell people with SSA that God will change them when they â€œcome into a knowledge of Jesus Christâ€ as it is to tell a cancer patient, or a deaf person, or a man without a limb that they will receive physical healing when they â€œcome into a knowledge of Jesus Christ.â€ Certainly God has the power to heal and change, but He so often doesnâ€™t do thisâ€“because He, and only Heâ€“knows what is good for our souls.
So I live in trust, and caution against Christians proclaiming what Scott proclaimed to me, while still believing that it is possible to hope for change, for those who desire it. However, it should never be linked with the supposed depth of relationship with God, but only related to Godâ€™s benevolent Providence. We can only find peace in this life when we trust that Godâ€™s will is always being done in our lives, and this, I think, is truly what we must strive for if we desire to â€œcome into a knowledge of Christ.â€Thank you Scott, but I would caution you and others against saying things such as this to people with same sex attraction. I think it is misguided, and reflects a confused theology (at least in terms of Catholic teaching) about theodicy.
H/T Orthodox and Gay.
By the way, annoyed tonight by this title to an article elsewhere.
Sliding down the slippery slope: If two gays or lesbians can marry, why canâ€™t three? Or what about bisexuals?
I tweeted this.
Good grief AM, for the LAST time, bisexual does NOT mean wanting to have sex with a man and woman at the same time http://t.co/hvCcU0k1
— Peter Ould â˜© (@PeterOuld) September 5, 2012
Lo and behold, the title then changed to:
Sliding down the slippery slope: If two gays or lesbians can marry, why canâ€™t three? Or what about bisexuals in love with individuals of each sex?
‘Cos that’s so much better? For what will probably not be the last time (seeing as I already said “for the last time” above), the defining point of a “bisexual” is that they are attracted to those of both sexes. If they want to have relationships with more than one person at the same time then that makes them a polygamist (or polyandrist). Their bisexuality has nothing to do with it. Heterosexuals and homosexuals are all perfectly capable of being polygamists.
Do you know what? I have no idea what the technical description is for someone in a polyamorous relationship were some members are bisexual AND have sex with other members of both sexes. But I know one word it isn’t. “Bisexual”.
Stigmatising a whole group of people is bad enough. Stigmatising them because you fundamentally misunderstand the meaning of a word?